My brother is in town with his wife and two beautiful young daughters. So, naturally NSR, my family, and I have been tracking around doing all sorts of stuff. Now, I get along relatively well with my sister-in-law. She has also been very vocal about deciding whether or not she approves of NSR.
The other night, we were setting up to play Monopoly. She stated that I should play with them because it’s a good way for me to learn stuff about NSR. At the same time, NSR was teasing me that since I wasn’t “a housewife yet, that I didn’t have to select the thimble or the iron (We have a very old school set), but…” SIL obviously heard him and said “like that“. I wasn’t remotely offended, because I want to be a housewife.
Yesterday we all went to the coast, although because we had to take separate cars anyway, Mamamagoosa, NSR, and I skipped the aquarium and walked the historic bayfront. Later on we joined back up, played on the beach and went to dinner. Now, my hair is technically wavy, but when it gets damp it frizzes and curls like mad. I was sporting a couple of wacky looking curlycues, which my SIL pointed out to NSR. Naturally, since it’s funny, he laughed and teased me. My SIL promptly scolded him and informed me that I “could hit him for that”. I didn’t because I wasn’t offended. He teases me all the time and I eat it up.
She very thoroughly could have been joking both times, (she is a bit hard to read,) however my thought is still the same. Let me choose what offends me. I’m not being polite or overly quiet, it just doesn’t bother me. Why should it? It’s one thing if it bothers her when her husband does it, it’s quite another when my future husband does it to me. I am the one who gets to choose what offends me. Which strictly speaking isn’t very much.
This seems to be a problem with female interaction in general. When one woman is dissatisfied with something, she tries to get other women dissatisfied with that same thing or it’s equivalent in their lives. They don’t want other women to have a happy marriage when theirs is falling apart. There have been studies which suggest that you are more likely to divorce if you have friends who have divorced. It’s that whole crab bucket analogy the Manosphere loves so much, instead of cooperating they drag each other down. This is why I’m so wary of having female friends.