This is more of an observation than a theory. NSR and I went squaredancing on Saturday for the first time in awhile. As I’ve gotten better at the dances it has left me a bit more time to observe. This time around I noticed a few things that parallel nicely with the SMV/MMV.
There are a lot of women trying to act like men, it causes mild problems across the board, but backfires spectacularly in circumstances when the physical/biological differences cannot be ignored.
The guys with more experience and/or outcome indifference are never without a partner. The less experienced men are more likely to be gunshy and need the women to be inviting before they will act confidently.
High value, inviting women will get a lot of attention from potential partners. Especially if they are submissive and upbeat.
Most women have no idea how to attract, much less compete for a man. Even when men are scarce they still expect them to compete for or at least justify themselves to the women before they will partner up.
If women want partners they must be inviting in the first place and must be willing to follow the man’s lead once she gets one. If men are scarce they need to be a bit more forward and be less worried about what the herd has to say.
If men want partners they have to be less worried about the outcome and need to be willing to lead, even if the woman doesn’t want to follow or doesn’t know how. Moreso when women are scarce.
You need to listen carefully to the instructions upfront, watch others, then after that you have to wing it based on those instructions and observations.
I could probably figure out a few more, but I’m tired and would like to get this post out the door before I forget about it. As a parting note, y’all should go squaredancing. It’s loads of fun.