Monthly Archives: October 2014

#NoNothingNovember

I saw this over at Stingray’s and since it dovetailed nicely with what I’ve been thinking about anyway, I decided I will be participating. I can’t say I intend to actually enter the contest, since I don’t focus too heavily on manosphere stuff or write for men as my target audience. I’m mostly just doing this because I was thinking only yesterday that I needed some more structure in my life, so I thought about it awhile and came up with three goals.

1. Get up at a decent hour and go to bed at a decent hour.

I have about a million different ways I could add structure to my life, but for me building habits is a one-step-at-a-time deal. So I decided to start with something simple. Making sure I get up a decent hour will make it much easier to use my time more efficiently and make it easier to get up on the rare occasions that I work during the week. I discussed this with NSR (he’s in charge of the alarm clock) and we decided 7:30 am would be a good time for me to get up. I’ll probably be aiming for a bedtime between 9:30 and 10 pm.

2. Finish things on the same day I start them.

I couldn’t come up with a better way to phrase this goal, given that it covers several categories of housework. What I mean is that pots and mixing bowls get washed on the same day they’re used; laundry doesn’t languish in the basket or worse yet, the dryer; dishes don’t sit on the counter long after they’re dry, etc. I’ve never been in charge of all the steps of any housekeeping task before, but I need to learn to get it all done so that the house won’t be a total disaster when kids come along.

3. Do something creative every day.

I haven’t been paying much attention to my artwork or my writing lately and that isn’t good for me. I need to keep my creative juices flowing. So everyday I will do at least one of these: knit, sew, draw, paint, write (poetry or fiction), decorate house (with stuff we already have or free things I can acquire, no shopping), garden, or learn a new creative skill/craft. I’m also going to count squaredancing, Altar Society meetings, and “service opportunities” like helping at the church Halloween party tomorrow as creative things. I’m also allowed to read if I’m doing research for something creative.

I may add more things if I manage to master one of these too quickly, but for now I’m going to leave it at that.


EG: The Time and Place for Hierarchy

This is a quick thought inspired by an episode of The Twilight Zone. I won’t spoil the episode, because it is quite excellent, I will simply say that a man complains that his superior officer has brought the “chain of command and the book” into a place where it didn’t belong, a crisis situation.

This made me stop to think. The hierarchy within any given group is not meant to be abandoned at the first sign of trouble. Times of trouble are when that hierarchy is needed most. Why did you bother figuring out who was the best leader if that weren’t the case? Times of trouble are when leaders must lead the most unapologetically and followers must follow most obediently. That is not the time for hesitation or refusing to obey. Being able to have faith in your leader is a great comfort in times of trouble. For the leaders themselves, being given the faith of their followers and being allowed to concentrate on the task of bringing everyone through in one piece is the most basic help they can be given by their followers.

I had a very small example of this recently. I was getting worked up over something minor, as I occasionally do. NSR was trying to help me through it and I was initially being difficult. Then as he instructed me to do something and a very unsubmissive thought began to enter my head, I shouted myself down inside my head, thinking “SHUT UP and TRUST HIM!”. I did so and calmed down almost instantly, despite the fact that the matter didn’t get resolved at that point. Respecting the hierarchy and having faith in the man I chose to marry helped me deal with the situation.

Someone else around here had and excellent post up about this recently but I can’t for the life of me remember who. When I remember I’ll update with a link.

Wives, you must take a minute to look at your husband and commit to trusting him. It will help you more than you expect. To the women who are seeking husbands, set aside your checklists for a moment and evaluate whether or not you can trust this man when the going gets rough. If not, break it off early and save the both of you a great deal of heartache.


MS: I Felt a Great Disturbance in the Force

…as if hundreds of voices suddenly cried out “misogyny” and will not shut up.

Feminists, not satisfied with finding reasons not to like new media, are finding reasons to dislike media of the past. The original Star Wars trilogy has been getting some attention for its supposed sexism.

The first is the rather obvious target of the slave Leia costume. I came across an infographic which refutes arguments that probably no one has ever made in support of the costume. I won’t reproduce it here because it is quite large and won’t link it because it’s from Tumblr. The basic premise of their issue with Leia’s costume (and the other slave girl’s costume) is that it “implies violence” against them. Never mind that Jabba jerks Leia’s chain and feeds the other slave girl to the rancor, in actual violence against them. No, no, the costumes are the problem. Never mind that them wearing anything else would be utterly nonsensical given the situation. They are slave girls, in the eyes of Jabba and his court they are objects. Their humanity (for lack of better term) is being degraded. To dress them in something tasteful and respectful is to ignore their plight. The film doesn’t have time to dedicate scenes specifically to showing they are in a bad situation. While the criticism of superheroine costumes may be somewhat justified due to their impracticality, the criticism of Leia’s costume is highly misguided. As a slave girl on a desert planet, what else would she be wearing? It’s like criticizing a maid for wearing a maid outfit. Implying violence against them is the entire point.

The other piece of outrage came about when photos of female Rebel pilots surfaced. Cue the outrage that they did not make the final cut. How sexist! Except, let’s think about this for a minute. What happens to every Rebel pilot we see in their fighter? Except Luke and his wingman? Well, they get shot out of the sky. Luke survives because he’s the hero and his wingman survives because Luke tells him something to the tune of “you can’t do any good here” after his fighter is damaged. The fact of the matter is that feminists would not be satisfied if the female pilots had made it to the screen. If they had been among the general pilot population and met the same fate, they would be saying that George Lucas has misogynistic tendencies since he included them only for the purpose of killing them off. If Luke’s wingman has been female and she survived because Luke sent her back to base, they would be saying that Luke is a sexist hero who doesn’t value the contributions of the female pilots.

If either of these criticisms had come to pass I would say “George Lucas seems to hate his fans, female and male alike, but as for the general population I can’t say” and “Luke has protective tendencies towards people regardless of their gender, possibly due to his guilt over the death of his aunt and uncle and exacerbated by the death of Kenobi”, respectively.

So, they wouldn’t be happy regardless of what happened and honestly I’d prefer it if they didn’t give George Lucas ideas for further edits. I’m going to join the chorus of other original trilogy fans and say “Leave Star Wars alone!”.