EG: “It’s Good to Have You Home”

I’ve been away from this blog so long I practically feel like I need to reintroduce myself. I’ll skip that though.

Some of you may or may not know that I did acquire a job around a year and a half ago. It took me awhile to get up to speed and it was tough work, but I liked it. Then, this year rolled around and I started to experience difficulty handling the job. One day in May I came home exhausted beyond comprehension and the summer was similarly hard. I worked only one or two days a week generally, but I got sick with some sort of respiratory issue every single time. During that time there was a potential threat that surfaced. My husband said, “You need a new job”. I began to look and alerted my boss I was looking. Eventually my car broke down at work due to a dead battery and after the ordeal (it was my birthday no less), I admitted, “I was really hoping the breakdown was serious enough I would have to quit” and my husband agreed. The last straw occurred when there was a tropical storm blowing in and my husband sent me a text saying “If it gets dangerous, go home”. I realized that I couldn’t obey his order and I did not like that. The growing realization that the money I was making absolutely did not make up for the stress I was inflicting on myself and my husband crystallized. Neither did it make up for all of much more important things I could not do because I was working. Everything I legitimately cared about was suffering mightily over less than $500 a month on average.

I searched frantically for a new job, but couldn’t find one.

So I did the only thing I could. I handed the reins over to God and walked over that cliff. I handed in my resignation. I still worked for four more weeks, wrote my thank you cards and said goodbye to the community I had been serving. When I got home that afternoon, my husband hugged me and said, “It’s good to have you home”. It is good to be home. I am praying hard that God will make a way for me to stay home and attend to what is actually important. I am thankful I worked that job, if only for the fact that it made me realize my place is at home serving my husband.

Of course, no one I talk to really understands that. Everyone has some reason or other to insist that I ought to keep working in some fashion. It’s been hard enough to argue them down to just suggesting part time work to me. The biggest concession I’ve gotten is from my mother, when she agreed to pray my husband gets a better job first and then pray for me after that. It really is exhausting wanting to do something that is outside of modern norms.

I feel like I need to write some sort of (preferably pithy) conclusion to this, but as it stands this whole situation is far from concluded. I’ll just have to wait and see what door God decides to open. In the mean time, your prayers are appreciated.

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8 responses to “EG: “It’s Good to Have You Home”

  • donalgraeme

    People sometimes make reference to “a leap of faith.” The thing is, a leap takes only one step. Most of the time, life doesn’t let us get away with taking only one step. After we make that first one, we have to keep taking more. I will keep you in my prayers as you take those steps.

  • The Animation Commendation

    Glad to have you back! We’re sending prayers, but also don’t forget to pray for yourself!

  • sylcell

    Well, I totally understand where you’re coming from! You do what you and your husband think is best, and quite frankly it is no one else’s business. Praying for you guys!

  • redpillgirlnotes

    Boy can I relate to what you are saying, I have been pressured my whole life to “make a living” and if you dare suggest that maybe you might scale back, oh dear the flack one gets. “Be an independent woman” brainwashing at its finest. I like that you suggested your mom pray for your husband’s income to increase first, then for your income to second. Well put! I’ll be praying for that too, and that the naysayers who just don’t get it won’t get to you. Good luck!

  • St. Thomas More Academy

    Is there a type of work you can do from home — i.e., do you have craft skills, baking, sewing, knitting, etc., that you could turn into profit? I worked outside the home for a brief period (then realized the babysitting money was eating up most of my earnings) and now I do soapmaking, baking and sewing on the side from home. It can turn out rather lucrative in some cases — first in the way of using what you make rather than buying it, of course, which in itself is not only good scaling back, but a lot of fun to boot.

  • Dragonfly

    I just found your blog this evening! I know this was awhile back, are there any updates now on your situation?

    PS- I started staying home and being a traditional housewife/stay at home mom/homeschooler after I lost my job in 2013, and it’s been so amazing. There are times when I miss the work environment (the sheer number of different people I used to come in contact with everyday), but I definitely do not miss the horrible stress, pressures, and missing my children grow up. Handing over the reigns to God is the best thing! His will for your life is always the best plan.

    • allamagoosa

      Sadly I am back on the search for a job, including full time work. I have picked up a small side job and am working on every penny-pinching angle I can for now. I’ve also been commiserating with a friend about taking her on as a roommate, but God will have to open that door for it to happen.

      However, my husband and I are still glad I quit. If I hadn’t the fact that I didn’t have the time or money to do proper maintenance on my car would have caught up to me rather quickly. Quitting that job may have saved my life. Remembering that makes it easier to deal with these ultra thin times.

  • Eastside School

    So good to have you back. You and NSR are one of my favorite stories.

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