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EG: “It’s Good to Have You Home”

I’ve been away from this blog so long I practically feel like I need to reintroduce myself. I’ll skip that though.

Some of you may or may not know that I did acquire a job around a year and a half ago. It took me awhile to get up to speed and it was tough work, but I liked it. Then, this year rolled around and I started to experience difficulty handling the job. One day in May I came home exhausted beyond comprehension and the summer was similarly hard. I worked only one or two days a week generally, but I got sick with some sort of respiratory issue every single time. During that time there was a potential threat that surfaced. My husband said, “You need a new job”. I began to look and alerted my boss I was looking. Eventually my car broke down at work due to a dead battery and after the ordeal (it was my birthday no less), I admitted, “I was really hoping the breakdown was serious enough I would have to quit” and my husband agreed. The last straw occurred when there was a tropical storm blowing in and my husband sent me a text saying “If it gets dangerous, go home”. I realized that I couldn’t obey his order and I did not like that. The growing realization that the money I was making absolutely did not make up for the stress I was inflicting on myself and my husband crystallized. Neither did it make up for all of much more important things I could not do because I was working. Everything I legitimately cared about was suffering mightily over less than $500 a month on average.

I searched frantically for a new job, but couldn’t find one.

So I did the only thing I could. I handed the reins over to God and walked over that cliff. I handed in my resignation. I still worked for four more weeks, wrote my thank you cards and said goodbye to the community I had been serving. When I got home that afternoon, my husband hugged me and said, “It’s good to have you home”. It is good to be home. I am praying hard that God will make a way for me to stay home and attend to what is actually important. I am thankful I worked that job, if only for the fact that it made me realize my place is at home serving my husband.

Of course, no one I talk to really understands that. Everyone has some reason or other to insist that I ought to keep working in some fashion. It’s been hard enough to argue them down to just suggesting part time work to me. The biggest concession I’ve gotten is from my mother, when she agreed to pray my husband gets a better job first and then pray for me after that. It really is exhausting wanting to do something that is outside of modern norms.

I feel like I need to write some sort of (preferably pithy) conclusion to this, but as it stands this whole situation is far from concluded. I’ll just have to wait and see what door God decides to open. In the mean time, your prayers are appreciated.


MS: Growing Fruit Trees from Seeds

Since I frequently complain about having no garden, I suppose my posting this requires a bit of backstory. It should be known that I am sentimental about the strangest things, in this case, NSR going and buying me pears when I was feeling really ill. I felt a strange urge to remember this gesture, so I looked up how to take the seeds and grow them into trees. Since I know there are people who read my blog who have an interest in self sufficiency, I decided I would pass it on.

It’s a bit more complicated than you might expect, but not too difficult. Personally I’m planning to gather seeds throughout the year and plant them in planters in the fall. I’m curious to know what hybrids I’ll end up with.

 


Oh, The New Year Started Didn’t It?

I feel like I kind of missed the New Year in the midst of the chaos that has surrounded the past few weeks.  I was worked nearly to death Christmas week, then I frantically went around visiting people before their vacations ended and found out a friend had passed away, now NSR is sick and I’m trying not to get sick myself. Despite the current situation of general illness I’m finally finding my feet and trying to get everything back in order.

I have goals more than resolutions for the new year. Improve my knitting and other home making skills, see about seeking a job that doesn’t leave me so exhausted. Exchange the PC for a laptop so I can work on certain projects more effectively and use the space for a sewing machine instead.

I’m also praying about a place on a friend’s farm that may come up for rent in the early spring. If it does, and the space works for us it would be a great opportunity to reduce our rent and for me to learn a bunch of new and useful skills. We might even be able to invest in our own chickens, start chicken ownership on the tutorial setting you might say. It would certainly assuage my need for nature time. There are still a lot of unknowns though, so we’ll have to see what God’s plans are.

I’m also praying very desperately that my car doesn’t give out, it is a necessity for my current job and we don’t have the spare cash for a new one should it go kaput. This is part of why I’m seeking a new job.

Happy New Year to everyone. 🙂


#NoNothingNovember

I saw this over at Stingray’s and since it dovetailed nicely with what I’ve been thinking about anyway, I decided I will be participating. I can’t say I intend to actually enter the contest, since I don’t focus too heavily on manosphere stuff or write for men as my target audience. I’m mostly just doing this because I was thinking only yesterday that I needed some more structure in my life, so I thought about it awhile and came up with three goals.

1. Get up at a decent hour and go to bed at a decent hour.

I have about a million different ways I could add structure to my life, but for me building habits is a one-step-at-a-time deal. So I decided to start with something simple. Making sure I get up a decent hour will make it much easier to use my time more efficiently and make it easier to get up on the rare occasions that I work during the week. I discussed this with NSR (he’s in charge of the alarm clock) and we decided 7:30 am would be a good time for me to get up. I’ll probably be aiming for a bedtime between 9:30 and 10 pm.

2. Finish things on the same day I start them.

I couldn’t come up with a better way to phrase this goal, given that it covers several categories of housework. What I mean is that pots and mixing bowls get washed on the same day they’re used; laundry doesn’t languish in the basket or worse yet, the dryer; dishes don’t sit on the counter long after they’re dry, etc. I’ve never been in charge of all the steps of any housekeeping task before, but I need to learn to get it all done so that the house won’t be a total disaster when kids come along.

3. Do something creative every day.

I haven’t been paying much attention to my artwork or my writing lately and that isn’t good for me. I need to keep my creative juices flowing. So everyday I will do at least one of these: knit, sew, draw, paint, write (poetry or fiction), decorate house (with stuff we already have or free things I can acquire, no shopping), garden, or learn a new creative skill/craft. I’m also going to count squaredancing, Altar Society meetings, and “service opportunities” like helping at the church Halloween party tomorrow as creative things. I’m also allowed to read if I’m doing research for something creative.

I may add more things if I manage to master one of these too quickly, but for now I’m going to leave it at that.


MS: Setting a Pattern of Joy

Yesterday, Margery wrote a post about two videos about Fighting Bitterness, which you should check out because they are really great.

It got me thinking about how everyone says that the early stages of marriage are really awesome because you’re still high on all of the emotions and hormones (which, so far seems to be 100% true), and how you should make a point of making good memories to fall back on when times get tough.

I think married couples should be encouraged to make more than just good memories, but good habits as well. I mean, when we get a new car or a new pet, or move into a new place we make a point to go through certain motions everyday to be sure everything is done properly until we make them into a habit. It’s easier to do it at that stage because it is new and exciting, it doesn’t yet feel like an obligation. Much like you don’t wait to start looking behind your car when you back until after you run over something, you shouldn’t wait until times get tough to learn to forgive and appreciate your spouse. Make a point to associate tasks with good memories, so you’re more inclined to do them. This is also the best time for candid discussions about things that legitimately do bother you, so they don’t keep building until you blow over it. If you do suddenly explode, your spouse will be confused and hurt, and you will be angrier than will seem logical to anyone other than you. Ask your spouse about things you do that bother them and make an effort to work on them now, when you naturally tackle their every request with enthusiasm because you love them so. Also make a point to weed out friends who don’t respect your spouse now, rather than later. They will poison you if you don’t. They can’t hate your spouse and love you, the two of you are one flesh now, if they hate your spouse, they hate you too.

Reinforce these habits whenever you can, so it is easier to fall back on them even when times are bleak.

At the Catholic Engaged Encounter we attended, the priest told us a story about a couple who had been married a long time and got into a big fight. The wife left the husband a note saying something along the lines of, “I hate you and I’m going for a walk. Don’t forget to pack yourself a lunch, I love you” then signed with her name. She wrote “I love you” despite being incredibly angry with him. Another couple he knew had been married fifty years and people always assumed the marriage had been all roses. They surprised people with stories of hardship and heartache. When they were asked if they thought of divorce they would respond, “Murder, yes, but divorce, never!”

You’re in this for the long haul, be sure to pack the right attitude and habits.

As a bonus, here is a video sure to make you smile. It’s not simply funny or cute, but legitimately joyful. You’ll especially like it if you’re a fan of Singing in the Rain.

I promise it isn’t an AMV set to a terrible pop song.


Requests and Suggestions

All the attention I got from my last couple of serious posts made me feel the need to hide for a bit. I’m so introverted that even internet attention wears me out. I only have serious posts that I’m working on now, so I’m going to share a few things, ask a few questions and try to give myself some more time to recoup.

For the more environmentally conscious among my readers, I’ve discovered a “green” drain cleaner which works rather spectacularly. It’s called “Drainbo”. It’s microbial, so it takes a little prep, but I think it’s worth it.

I’ve realized that what I’ve historically disliked about whole grain bread is not the taste or smell, but the fact that many whole grain breads had their flour ground by lazy cave men. I object to having large chunks of grain baked into my bread. I’d like my flour properly ground please.

NSR has noticed his increase in horse related knowledge. After a recent outing at the local fair he commented that he could interpret the horses’ body language and then told me if he ever got a horse, he was blaming me. Being the thinking sort, this got me musing over what kind of horse owner NSR would be. I decided that he would be the proud owner of some big, goofy, friendly horse. He wouldn’t ride often, but he would teach it all sorts of tricks, like how to play soccer and steal your hat. I told him what I thought, after which he said “I really do want a horse now”. Oops. Not what I was going for.

I have to really appreciate how God looks after me. I got a wire impaled in my tire today and wasn’t able to pull it out. Next time I stopped to check on it, it was gone and my tire wasn’t losing any air. Our landlady is rather on the ball too. We called her to tell her our outlet was making strange noises and kept kicking off. She had the electrician out promptly the next morning. I took a recording of the noise, but I don’t know how to convert it to the proper file type at present.

NSR and I decided that I’m not going to the grocery store after 6pm without him anymore, because I keep getting approached by guys who are “new in town” and are somehow oblivious to the “keep your distance” vibe I emanate when I’m alone. I really need to figure out how to politely extricate myself from these sorts of encounters, I’m not very good at that.

I also need to find someone who will trim my hair, without charging me $50 and parting my hair the wrong way while they’re at it.

I got asked for the first time whether I was NSR’s daughter. I’m surprised it took this long for someone to ask me.

As for my requests, I need slow cooker recipes. Ones that are low in sugar and carbs, and preferably high in beef content. Since I’m kind of new to cooking, please make sure that your recipes include detailed instructions. I can’t really infer what to do solely from an ingredient list.

I could use some tips as for what cuts of meat are good for what types of dishes.  I realized I had no knowledge in this area when I went to buy beef for stir fry and was sort of dumbfounded about what to get.

I’m curious whether anyone would care to see the doodles I do of my daily outfits for inspiration in regards to feminine style? I’d probably put them somewhere other than here.

Also, suggestions on how to get over a dumb “crush” I have on a vacant house that isn’t for sale and we couldn’t afford even if it was.


MS: Breakfast Quiche

When I finally acquired a pie dish this recipe was the first thing on my mind. It’s very simple and is one of the only ways I will eat eggs.

Ingredients:

  • 3 eggs
  • 3/4 cup milk
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt and pepper to taste
  • 1 cup of shredded Cheddar cheese
  • 1 cup of chopped cooked ham (or bacon)
  • 1 unbaked 9 inch pie shell

Directions:

Put the pie shell into the pie dish. I just use a pre-made one since I don’t eat crust. Sprinkle the in the cheese and put the meat on top of it. You can substitute bacon for the ham, but if you do be sure to leave out the salt. Beat the eggs, milk, salt and pepper together and pour over the ham and cheese. Bake at 350 for 45 minutes. Let stand for 5 minutes before cutting and serving. Substituting bacon makes the quiche a bit thinner, meaning you can probably cut down the bake time by a few minutes. Ideally the quiche should be a fairly moist and not at all brown on the top.